What Happens When We Confirm Who We Are?

When we have a clear understanding of our identity, the impact is profound. Here are some key outcomes:

Clarity on Life’s Next Steps

Knowing who you are provides direction. It helps you navigate the path ahead with confidence.

Discernment in Decision-Making

You’ll know what to say yes to and what to decline—recognizing which opportunities are worth pursuing and which to let go.

Positive Influence on Others

When you’re grounded in your identity, you inspire and positively impact those around you.

Values-Based Prioritization

You can focus on what truly matters, aligning tasks and goals with your core values.

How Can We Confirm Who We Are?

Simply asking yourself, “Who am I?” repeatedly is unlikely to yield the answers you seek. The journey begins with unlearning and self-acceptance:

Free Yourself from Prescribed Narratives

Let go of societal, cultural, or external expectations that dictate who you’re “supposed” to be.

Embrace Self-Acceptance

Acknowledge your strengths and weaknesses, recognizing that they are all part of being human.

Extend Self-Acceptance into Self-Compassion:

Be kind to yourself. Understand that imperfection is natural and embrace your humanity.

Uncovering Your Core Identity:

Once you’ve laid this foundation, you can begin asking yourself deeper questions to uncover your core values and ultimate identity. One helpful approach is to utilize the “magic number three” concept:

Example:

• Why do I want to be rich?

To provide my family and myself with a life of luxury.

• Why is luxury important to me?

To have the freedom to do what I want.

• Why is freedom important to me?

To fully enjoy life.

By repeatedly asking “Why is this important to me?” you peel back the layers to discover the core value driving your desires. In this example, the ultimate value is the desire to enjoy life.

Aligning with Your Ultimate Value:

Now that you’ve identified your core value, you can ask:

“Who will I become when I achieve this ultimate value?”

This vision of yourself represents who you truly want to be. When you confirm and align with this identity, countless doors will open. You’ll find clarity, purpose, and a deeper connection to the life you want to live.